No Screaming - No Arguing - No Frustration

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Are you sick of arguing and screaming and being frustrated because your child does not listen to you? Would you like to learn some tips that might help you gain a more cooperative family and more peaceful environment to live in? Then perhaps you would like to know why children misbehave in the first place and how you should react in order to gain some sense of order and peace in your family.

Why Children Misbehave
As a parent educator, I have seen many families in chaos, simply because they are not holding family meetings and involving the children in problem-solving. I have also seen families move from anger to admiration in a matter of days or hours. A child with disrespectful behavior can turn your home into a war zone where there is no Peace and serenity.

The Goals of Misbehavior
Attention- I want you to notice and serve me
Power-I belong when I am in control or being boss.
Revenge- I belong when I can hurt others as I am being hurt. I want to get even
Display of inadequacy- I give up, don't expect anything from me. I am helpless
What Do They Really Need?

They need parents who will parent and discipline them. The word discipline comes from the Greek word which means "to teach." Punishment is not teaching. Positive Discipline involves guidance and consistent effort on the part of the parents and other adults who care for your children.

Children need to know what is acceptable and what is not acceptable behavior. They need to know the boundaries that society expects them to adhere to. They need to be taught right from wrong.

Build Self Esteem and Confidence
A child's self esteem and confidence is formed very early and is created each day from words, actions and skills taught by the adults who are caregivers. Self esteem doesn't depend on getting everything you want, when you want it. Instead, it builds from overcoming minor obstacles and learning to accomplish small daily tasks. This confidence in learning how to handle your emotions, responsiblities and environment is best taught and modeled by loving and caring parents.

Total Transform Your Family
If your communication with your children consists of yelling, screaming and fighting, you are invited to go to www.DisciplineYesPunishNo.com for a life changing program.

Judy H. Wright is a parent educator, family coach, and personal historian who has written more than 20 books, hundreds of articles and speaks internationally on family issues, including end of life. You are invited to visit our blog at www.AskAuntieArtichoke.com for answers and suggestions which will enhance your relationships. You will also find a full listing of free tele-classes and radio shows held each Thursday just for you at www.ArtichokePress.com.

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