Get Your Ex Back - Learn To Be Yourself

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How often do we go through life really not appreciating what we have got? Even in younger days we can remember our parents saying things like "make sure you look after it, because you are not having another one" or "live your life to the full, before you know it you will be sixty years old". I remember my grandfather telling me this second one and he was right. At the time I thought "yeah old man, whatever you say blah blah". I was twelve or thirteen at the time but boy was he right, thirty years have passed and it seems like only two. Basically he was saying, "you are young now, treasure it, It doesn't last forever", basically, appreciate what you have got.

Unfortunately there are thousands of people that don't. Some men and women out there may have the perfect partners and they just do not realise it. Not until of course, they have gone. As this point arrives and the penny drops they take an immediate look back and think "oh my, what have I done?" They will then try to get their ex back at all cost. Are you in this position?

Have you let somebody go (or pushed them away)? People that do find they start to try and make contact in the hope of salvaging the relationship. You devote all your time to thinking about them, unable to get them out of your mind and going out of your way in the hope you can speak to them or make some contact look like an accidental meeting. These steps actually should be avoided if you want to get your ex back. Doing things like this only force people away. You both need some space.

Taking steps such as mentioned above should not be carried out. You should not be giving your ex the impression you are down and out! This does not give a great impression for them and it certainly will not give them confidence in you. On the other hand, you should not be trying to make contact in order to throw abuse either. After a separation there is a lot of tension. These are bad times where things very hurtful can be said, things people do not forget. Say the wrong thing and it could damage you both forever. What we are saying here is a hard thing to do but simply "Leave Them Alone".

When you first got together with your partner, what was it they saw in you that made them attracted to you? Find that person. You need to stay positive and enjoy your life. You need to get out there with your friends and family. Get on with your hobbies, be interesting and attractive. Have something going in your life that attracts people to you. Your ex will not want to be looking at a down and out drunken lazy person. This is not attractive at all and is a sure way to put a nail in your chances. Try and look back and find the person you were when you met them the first time around.

Now, with this in mind, we are not saying here to go out and be so confident that you are pretending to be someone you are not. They fell in love with you to start with because you were you, not someone else. Simply be yourself. Don't play games. If you receive a call from your ex, be nice, pleasant and sound like you are happy to hear from them. If you receive a text or an email, don't rush reply but think about your answer. Again, do not try to score points with them. It is nice to appear happy to hear from them and to communicate but do not give the impression you are sat by the phone 24/7 either. Maybe wait a couple of hours before you get back to them.

Never go out of your way to try and make them jealous. If you want to get your ex back this is a sure way to stop it happening. Do not be going into clubs or bars knowing she will be there and start flirting around. Yes, it will upset them but equally important it is laughable. All you will achieve is upsetting the person you want back in your life and at the same time make a fool of yourself. There is no harm in going on a date, make it clear you are not looking for anything serious. It is nice to go out with someone who wants to be in your company, it is good for your confidence. It does not mean it needs to lead to something serious. Just tread with caution. The most important thing here is not to do it in view of your ex. There is no need for it. If your goal is to get your ex back it is not a good starting point to be seen blatantly with another.

All we are saying in this article is this, after your break-up do not fall into a depression and sink yourself into drink and lying in bed all day every day. Be positive, get yourself out and about and have fun. Just do it tactfully and make your self a better person. Do not try to score goals. Let your ex see you naturally as they did when they fell in love with you. Eventually, the time will come where you can communicate and this will be just the start to getting back your ex!

Chris Towers is a British born author originally from Manchester UK. He now dedicates his time with his team to helping people who are sufferering from relationship problems and / or have suffered a break up or separation. You can see his website and information to get your ex back at


http://www.Win-Back-Your-Ex-partner.com

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