Some statements are like bad cold and cough. Almost
everyone gets it or gives it. One such
is often heard during break-ups. And the gem is: “You’ll never find
anyone like me again!” When someone said this to me once upon a time, I
wondered, “My goodness! I should hope not! If I don’t want you, why
would I want someone like you?”
Similarly, a close friend decided
to move
on a couple of years ago after her search for fulfilment in a romantic
relationship hit a dead-end. She ignored his cough ’n’ cold and married
a fine gentleman last year. She has turned out to be a terrific wife:
she is a loving and caring woman who always forgives her husband when she’s wrong! They make a lovely couple and I’m happy for them.
A few
months before getting married,
Cynthia (That’s what I’ll call her) spoke to me about her ex-boyfriend.
I’ll share it with you in brief. For her studies, Cynthia had gone to
London for a few years. During her stay in the UK, she met Sid with
whom she went steady for a few months. Things didn’t go well between
them and as they went along, Cynthia realised Sid was not the right guy
for her. Soon, they parted with mutual understanding and later she
returned to India.
For a few months there was no news of him.
Apparently, they had moved on and Cynthia was now committed to Samar
with plans for future. But just when she thought everything was going
fine, Sid resurfaced. He started making efforts to reconnect with
Cynthia. She politely rejected his overtures. But he began badgering
her with calls, emails and text messages. Cynthia was adamant, she
refused to give way. Gradually, Sid became belligerent and stroppy. On
a couple of occasions he even flew down to India to persuade her into
making a comeback. His mindless doggedness and tenacity troubled
Cynthia, but she had made up her mind to resist his foolhardiness.
However, the uncertainty that surrounded the whole thing and Sid’s
misdirected motives sometimes rattled her.
Cynthia discussed at
length the entire
story with me over chat and told me she was not sure what to do. “I am
a little worried. I don’t know what Sid is going to do. We broke up
because it wasn’t going anywhere. And now, he’s pestering me and
persecuting me…”
Cynthia
was right. “A relationship,” Woody
Allen once said, “is like a shark. It has to constantly move forward or
it dies. And I think what we (most of us) got on our hands is a dead
shark.” Apparently, Cynthia wanted a sprightly and spry shark.
She
instantly emailed me Sid’s handwriting
on a greeting card he had presented to her in the UK. As I saw his
handwriting unfold slowly on the screen of my laptop, the first word
that zipped through my lips was: “FUCK”. I told her straight away that
under no circumstances should she have anything to do with that man. He
was sure a danger.
As I analysed Sid’s handwriting (above), I
discovered that he suffered from the out-of-the-sight-out-of-the-mind
syndrome. It meant that mentally he was with Cynthia as long as she was
in front of him. But the moment she was physically absent, he would
seek out “others” and hit on other women. I told Cynthia that this man
had some serious conflict with women because of his awful relationship
with his mother. Cynthia then revealed that indeed he was not at all on
good terms with his mother and he hated her.
Now, click on Sid’s
handwriting sample to
enlarge it and look carefully at the sharp hooks in the lower zone
letters y’s and g’s. The claw-like formation in the two letters are
really ominous and if you see it in the handwriting of your lovers,
please be careful. Such claws are often found in the handwriting of
criminals. These hook-like formations are dangerous because they show
up in that zone of the handwriting which reflects the writer’s
relationship with his romantic partners, his professional health and
his physical life. They are heart-breakers.
When I told Cynthia
that this person can
be physically abusive and violent, she said she had heard him talk
about getting murderous if he did not get what he wanted. The muddiness
in the strokes, caused by the irregular flow of ink because of an
unstable pressure of writing, is indicative of his unsound mind. Such a
writer can never think of his partner with respect and would rather
look at her as an object of sexual gratification. During intercourse
too, such writers can be violent with their partners.
About such
hook formations, famous
graphologist Andrea McNichol says: “The claw means… bitterness and bad
instincts. He will seem to be the nicest person on the earth. No one
would suspect this person of having an evil bone in his body. But then,
he is setting you up only to stab you in the back; he will end up
clawing you…. This is most frightening because you don’t know the knife
is coming. The claw appears frequently in the lower zones of rapists.
That does not mean that all people with such claws are rapists…”
My
conclusion about Sid is based not only
on the hooks appearing in the two letters. Using a magnifying glass, I
have also spotted many things including muddiness, certain thickness of
strokes and pointed endings of all the hooks. If I see such strokes in
the handwriting of a woman on my first date, I’d get up to find the
nearest exit. And you? Take your call.
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and share with me your opinion with the article and also your
experiences with people like Sid, if at all you have had any. For any
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