What do you think shuts a man down shortly after
being together a while? Do you rack your brain mulling over whether it
was something you said or, did? When it goes awry, not knowing leaves
you feeling rejected, not appreciated, and misunderstood.
We
already know that men and women are wired differently. The struggle
clearly lies in not knowing how to delicately relay the feelings you
are having without setting off alarms that makes him bolt like a
rooster in a small confining pen.
Does the cosmos hold a secret
as to what makes a man want to listen, open up about his feelings and
truly understand a woman? NOPE. Men are not like windows and, eight
times out of ten, will not communicate the way you would like and need
them to. And because of this, we talk even more, over-compensate,
nurture and love him beyond ... beyond and, he just keeps locking that
dang window.
What is the answer?
We freak out because men
do not understand us. But, it could be we just don't get them. Trying
to get a man to know/show how he feels and what he wants in a
relationship before he even had a chance to enjoy the great connection
you just discovered together is like putting a nail in a coffin. We all
do it unconsciously because it's what girls do. How you share what you
feel and think about him while you are together will make a big
difference.
What it all boils down to is you do something to kill
that intense attraction that drew him to you in the first place. This
leads him to shut down and begin to question whether you are the right
woman he wants to be with.
I know ... right now you are saying, "No I don't!" Answer this question honestly though.
Do
you talk, feel, and act with a man you think "is the one" like you are
already in a committed relationship with him - before he has even
developed those feelings himself?
When your expectations of him
are the kind a woman who is in an actual long-term committed
relationship IS having, and he is not there yet - it is a deal killer
for any man. Women go into autopilot and fantasize straight out of the
gate when the right man comes along, especially when the connection is
great, the chemistry is sizzling, and as time goes by you fall into a
nice groove of spending time together. Women rationalize they are
already a couple. They want to play house right away and envision a
Cinderella wedding when commitment to the man in their life is just a
word found in Webster's.
Having him do the pursuing and asking
for a more serious relationship will happen when you project yourself
as a woman who is independent, full of life, not expecting commitment
and not acting like the needy, clingy type, already setting up home
like a married couple and making plans way too far into the future.
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