Get Your Girlfriend Back And Keep Her

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Once you have got your girlfriend back after you split up, it isn't the end of your work. The relationship obviously ended the first time for a reason, so you have to make sure that you manage to keep her this time. What is the point in putting in all that effort to get your girlfriend back if you're just going to make the same mistakes again? Even if you think you know what makes your girlfriend tick there may be several key factors you may not be aware of.


Where's the Love?
You can make all the romantic gestures you like, you can buy here gifts and take her to expensive restaurants, but a woman likes to be told how much you love her. The material gifts you buy, the amount of time you spend with her and the effort you put into the relationship won't matter if you can't tell her how you feel. A lot of women don't truly feel love unless they hear those 3 little words fairly often.

Don't get me wrong, she won't forget all the nice things you have bought her and all the nice gestures, but they like to have it reaffirmed that you do love her. Women constantly re-assess their relationship. Men on the other hand get comfortable with the situation and assume that if you loved me yesterday, you still love me today.

So you have to regularly say those words that she wants to hear: "I love you." If your the strong silent type that doesn't like expressing their feelings, write her a note telling her that you love her and leave it somewhere she will find it. She will appreciate this a lot more than a bunch of flowers. If that still sounds a little "girly" for you, then make an effort to show her how much you appreciate the things that she does for you. If she makes you a nice meal, make sure to tell her how much you appreciate it and everything she does.

If you put in the effort to get your girlfriend back but can't show her how you feel, as described above, you have wasted your time as she won't stick around long

Listen to Her
How would you feel if you wanted to have an important conversation with your girlfriend, only for her to stare blankly into space and not pay attention to you. It would suck right? Yet many men do this with their partners and are surprised they feel hurt that they aren't being listened to. A lot of guys may not even realize that they aren't paying attention to their girlfriends, and space out almost instinctively, but you've got to make the effort to listen to what she says, and show her that you are interested in her.

That doesn't mean that you aren't allowed some time to yourself however. Like if you have something really important to do, or just want to watch the game, tell her that your busy at the moment but will talk to her later. Make sure that you do go to her later and ask what she wanted to talk about, otherwise it will be worse than if you just weren't listening to her.

If she cares about you, she will be happy to give you your space and appreciate that you then made the effort to talk to her later.

Honesty is Normally The Best Policy

Okay, being honest with your partner is really important, especially when it comes to the big things in life. But I'm sure every guy has experienced a time when they wished they had told a little white lie instead of being brutally honest. Don't flat out lie to her, but a little tact and diplomacy can go a long way to keeping the peace.

You know that age old question of "do I look fat in this?" Don't say something stupid like, "No, it makes you look thin." Firstly she will probably know that your lying. Secondly, if she doesn't think that your lying, your answer implies that she looks fat normally, just not in what she is wearing now. Your answer should be something along the lines of "Of course you don't, you look gorgeous." It may sound a little corny, but it will give her a little confidence boost and will keep you in the good books.

When I say that a white lie is good now and again, I don't mean that you should try and keep quiet anything wrong you have done, or something that is bothering you. In that situation honesty really is the best policy. If you've done something wrong, man up and face the consequences. It will at least be better that you tell her the truth than you telling her a lie, and her finding out the truth from someone else. Likewise, if there is something bothering you, it is better to get it out in the open instead of bottling it up.

It isn't rocket science to keep you partner happy in your relationship. A little bit of effort and some thoughtfulness on you part can go a long way to ensuring that she doesn't become your ex girlfriend again.

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