How to Create A Magnetic Personality And Leave An Absolute Jaw Dropping Impression

Mon, 01 Mar 2010 20:15:15 EST

Have you ever been around one of those star stunning individuals that seemto just magically draw people to them? Well, I grew up with one - my sister.Cute, fun, outgoing and never without a friend. I on the other hand was quitethe opposite. A little more reserved by nature - you know - the kind that turnred and stutter a bit when they are trying to talk to someone. I often wonderedwhat made the difference and I realized that it all boils down to one thing....knowingwho you are and being ok with it.

It's been referred to as, self-confidence, self-esteem, self-image, amongothers, but the way I like it best described is connecting with your core. Sowhat does it mean exactly - connecting with your core? It means figuring outwho you truly are and living from that place. You see, it wasn't that my sisterand I weren't equal in beauty or talent, it was that she was ok with who shewas and I wasn't. At 5'6" weighing 100 lbs. soaking wet, I perceived myself asbeing a scrawny, awkward little kid that would never look good enough to havethe "magic friend-getting formula." I let the fear of what I thought otherpeople were "probably thinking" about me influence how I felt about myself andhow I acted around them. My sister on the other hand never worried about any ofthat and just had fun being herself.

So who are you - do you truly know who you are? Seems like a simplequestion, but I submit that most of us don't live from a place where we trulyknow who we are. If someone asked you to describe yourself right now, would yoube able to do it? If you find yourself searching for the correct words or at aloss of words when you ponder the question, then you don't truly know who youare. Often when asked this question people will answer with "who they want tobecome" rather than "who they are". This in no good either. You have to be ableto know who you presently are and be comfortable with being yourself.

So how do you connect with your inner core then? You really have to take agood introspective look at yourself and answer the number one question - whatwould you do if you had no limitations or consequences? So if you had nolimitations, whether that be limitations placed on you by society, culture, theeconomy, or people around you telling you "you can't be xxx", what would youdo? Who would you truly be? Perhaps you always felt like society and the peoplearound you expected you to be a lawyer. So you went to law school, you've beenpracticing for 10 years, drive a Mercedes and you play a stuffy game of golfwith the partners once a week, but who you really are at the core is verydifferent. You're actually a good ol' boy who'd really like to own a monstertruck, go muddin' and camping on the weekends, and have your own fishing showon ESPN!

Now I'm not saying to flush years of law school and your 10 year career downthe toilet. I'm just saying, to really attract people to you, you have to knowwho you truly are at the core and operate from that place. When you operate froma true and sincere place, connecting with who you really are at the core,people will sense that and be attracted to you. You will automatically start toattract people into your life that connect with you because they feel and sensethe true you.

So, no more holding back as that will only make people hold back from you.No more fear of what other people are thinking as people will sense your fearand shy away. Be ok with who you are and people will magnetically be drawn toyou!

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How to Create A Magnetic Personality And Leave An Absolute Jaw Dropping Impression