Start Loving from Yourself

Sat, 31 Jan 2009 11:13:35 EST

"But love must begin from the beginning. It must begin with this first step: love yourself." [OSHO, 1931-1990]
Loving yourself is getting you through continuous change and development, being yourself, and enjoying your presence at every moment. It gives you the power of doing things, it takes wings. It has nothing to do with ego that stems from comparing yourself with the others and more-less means loving of your image instead of yourself.

Why to start loving from yourself?
* First and foremost, because you are the closest being to yourself; you are the only one you can't escape.
* If you don't love yourself, what gives you rise to think that anybody else does? If you love yourself, you take care of yourself, as a result of which look better, are more self confident etc. If you don't do it, you look lost.
* Loving yourself makes you a personality and gives you the personal freedom. You will know who you are, what do you want, what are your goals and ambitions. This is the unavoidable assumption and component of personal leadership and taking the responsibility for your own life.
* Before you can love anybody else, you need to love yourself. Among others, it is because you love the others through yourself -- because they make you feel happy, they provide comfort etc.

The ones, who intentionally or unintentionally undermine your love to yourself, can easily make you weaker, or, in more extreme cases, they destroy your personality completely. Among others, the undermining statements are:
* "You are lazy/stupid/etc." If taken word by word, these statements make you see yourself through the eyes of the others and, instead of getting you and being yourself, reflect the expectations of the others.
* "You must do it." If you don't see the point of doing it, this makes you to the one who does not have her/his own will. Instead, you will be the tool for achieving the goals of the others.
* "You can't do it." This statement decreases your belief into yourself. If you let your self confidence to be eroded and admit that "I can't do it", your thinking will stop here. Remember that the ones saying it are either a) just stupid or b) stupid and want to make you to the stairs for themselves.
* "This is not for you." If taken seriously, this makes you feel as the one of secondary importance. How can the others know what is not for you or what is the best for you?

If you love yourself, you take all this type of statements as just the opinions of the others. You know that whatever is the stimulus, this is your freedom to choose of how to react to it.

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Start Loving from Yourself