Marriage is not an end nor a goal to be achieved, it's the beginning of a tremendous responsibility. Don't take it on until you're ready...http://www.trcb.com/en-Us60Sat, 26 May 2012 07:35:12 ESTCopyright 2012 Thomas Karanja, TRCB.com All Right Reservedhttp://www.trcb.com/relationships/commitment/when-are-men-ready-for-marriage-21342.htm<p>Marriage is not an end nor a goal to be achieved, it's thebeginning of a tremendous responsibility. Don't take it on until you'reready... and when &nbsp;you're ready, take it on with all you've got.</p><p>The point I'm trying to make is this: &nbsp;before you get involved in a committedrelationship, make sure you are truly ready for the reality of it, truly readyfor the responsibility, truly ready to give up what you have to give up for it.<br /><br /> Our society is based on the family unit and a happy, healthymarriage. &nbsp;But that's the rub--a happy, healthy marriage. &nbsp;And if youstick a guy who is not prepared for the real world reality, rigors andresponsibility of marriage into such a situation, disaster will result.<br /><br /> Now, don't get me wrong--I am not anti-marriage in any way,shape or form. &nbsp;I am very much a pro marriage guy, and happy to say manyof my customers have gotten and stayed married because of my advice, and manyothers have saved their relationships because of it.<br /> <br /> The Big Lie is this: &nbsp;you meet a beautiful woman. &nbsp;You feel chemistryfor her (or try to). &nbsp;You look like you're matched. &nbsp;So you getmarried. &nbsp;And then you ascend to heaven, to stay there forever more.<br /> <br /> Unfortunately, that's not how the world works. &nbsp;That's why there are somany divorce lawyers prospering. &nbsp;The Big Lie is just that-a big lie.<br /> <br /> The reality is this. &nbsp;There are two kinds of men in this world: "marriageand kids" men and "rock and roll guys." &nbsp;Rock and roll guysare not cut out to get married. &nbsp;They should spend time with lots ofdifferent naughty girls, should indulge their fantasies,should "be bad."<br /> <br /> Why? &nbsp;Because they make lousy husbands. &nbsp;And when a rock and roll guybuys into The Big Lie and tries to become a marriage and kids guy well... hewinds up on tv and in sex therapy trying to be something he's not.<br /><br /> If you're currently a rock and roll guy, play yourguitar loud and proud. &nbsp;Rock the house, and improve the lives of a fewnaughty girls. &nbsp;Sometime in the future when you have age, and wisdom on yourside you can turn off the lights, put your guitar away and become a marriage and kids guy. Nothing wrong with that, and in fact Iencourage it.</p>Mon, 25 Jan 2010 11:41:05 ESThttp://www.trcb.com/relationships/commitment/when-are-men-ready-for-marriage-21342.htmTRCB.comRelationships / Commitment