If a woman is just a little hesitant about moving forward fast in a new relationship, it's ok--she just wants to be sure you're not another undercover chord or player.http://www.trcb.com/en-Us60Sat, 26 May 2012 07:43:08 ESTCopyright 2012 Thomas Karanja, TRCB.com All Right Reservedhttp://www.trcb.com/relationships/relationships/why-women-are-hesitant-to-get-into-relationships-20491.htm<p>If a woman is just a little hesitant about moving forwardfast in a new relationship, it's ok--she just wants to be sure you're notanother undercover chord or player.</p><p>A player or undercover chord is the guy who appears to begood, who's really good at keeping up appearances in the short term, butcrumbles when he realizes relationship is a marathon not a sprint. Most womenhave run into players, and now they're wary of been just another victimstatistics.</p><p>Short term relationships are something most women are upagainst, so you'll have an understanding of the challenges a single, sexy,successful woman faces in this day and age of the woes.</p><p>What happens is this: &nbsp;a woman meets a guy who seemswith it. &nbsp;He's apparently successful, likes to have fun, he's laid back,treats her well and is relationship minded.</p><p>He tells her things she wants to hear, and he does so within weeks of meetingher. &nbsp;But he appears to back it up with action, so her initial skepticismfades.</p><p>Time passes, and they get closer to each other. &nbsp;They spend a lot of timetogether, and maybe they move in together. &nbsp;Maybe they decide to getmarried. &nbsp;And things move fast. &nbsp;Really fast. So, he puts a ring onher finger, or they commit and things are perfect... right?</p><p>Well, not really. &nbsp;At first they are. &nbsp;But after the initial attractionfades, she begins to notice a few things that are "off."&nbsp;Nothingbig, but it just feels like something's off.</p><p>Perhaps he borrows a few bucks from her. &nbsp;Or goes on a few "businesstrips" he didn't used to go on. &nbsp;Or puts down a few more beers atnight than she thought. &nbsp; Problem? &nbsp;No, but...And then she makes the"big discovery." &nbsp;He's lying about his business. &nbsp;He's analcoholic. &nbsp;He travels for other encounters. &nbsp;He has a bad temper.&nbsp;Whatever it is, she finds something out she never thought she would...and the relationship crumbles. &nbsp;And she's distraught. She is just anothervictim!</p><p>Good things come to those who wait, those who have patience.Players don't, and never will. &nbsp;Bepatient, and you'll never be played or be a player, much less an undercoverone.</p>Tue, 05 Jan 2010 14:57:57 ESThttp://www.trcb.com/relationships/relationships/why-women-are-hesitant-to-get-into-relationships-20491.htmTRCB.comRelationships / Relationships