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The intention of this article is to encourage the healing of the traumatized child. Carl Jung said: “ In every adult there lurks a child – an eternal child, something that is always becoming, is never completed and calls for unceasing care, attention and education.

Comfort care means COMFORT, not cure. Our scientific and medical cultures are trained and geared toward cure, treatment, and results. Medical personnel want to fix people and find answers. Some will feel that somehow they have failed their calling if they do not keep searching and attempting to find a "cure." It is often difficult to move from this modality into comfort care only.

Internal work on our believe systems, thought patterns and behaviors is the hardest work any of us will ever do. It takes a great deal of courage and desire to change to undergo the strenuous work of digging through the layers of hidden feelings, experiences and hurts.

People who have lost a loved one, either a human or animal, search for ways to remember and at least keep a memory alive. Sharing stories helps us remember those good days and the joy that loved one brought to us. We may no longer to enjoy their fun and love in this existence, but the memory can remind us of the emotions and experiences we had together.

Everyone in life feels depressed at times, that is completely normal and healthy. However suicidal thoughts are not a normal response to stress. It is completely normal to have feelings such as sadness, depression, anger, anxiety, hopelessness and frustration. However none of these feelings should lead to suicidal thoughts.

Have you ever heard someone say that in retrospect a tragedy was the best thing that ever happened to them? You just shake your head and wonder what they are talking about. How can the bad be good? For someone who has recently lost a loved one, the future is confusing, frightening and very vague. They are not sure who they are now that they are no longer the caregiver, wife, daughter or whoever they had labeled themselves through the years.