Do Your Beliefs Control Your Actions?

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Everybody has beliefs. No matter who you are or where you're from, you hold beliefs about life. They may not be religious or spiritual beliefs, but rather beliefs about life and what it holds. Beliefs about how you should live. The problem is, it's easy to let your beliefs control you, instead of you controlling your beliefs.

Who is in Control?

It's true, you can control your beliefs! And even better, being able to choose what you believe is a step toward building self-confidence. Some beliefs can be self-defeating; why would you want to follow such beliefs when you could build your life after positive, self-affirming beliefs?

What is Underlying Belief?

Take, for example, somebody who cleans their plate every time they eat, even if they aren't hungry for more. Why do they do this? It's part of their belief system. They don't want to waste, because they want to save money, because they were brought up in the Depression, and there are starving children in Africa. These are the underlying beliefs that explain why they always clean their plate.

Is the Belief Still True? Was it Ever True?

Think about it, though. Will cleaning your plate each meal truly save you money? It might give you a stomach ache, but it won't feed children in Africa, nor will it bring back the money you already spent on food. So why make yourself uncomfortable when you don't have to?

The beliefs that cause this person to clean their plate are beliefs that control their actions. However, you don't need to let beliefs like that control your life! It is truly up to you what you believe in and what you don't. Maybe you were brought up made to believe certain things. But are those beliefs leading to self-confidence and happiness, or are they simply holding you back?

Judy H. Wright is a parent educator, family coach, and personal historian who has written more than 20 books, hundreds of articles and speaks internationally on family issues, including end of life. You are invited to visit our blog at www.AskAuntieArtichoke.com for answers and suggestions which will enhance your relationships. You will also find a full listing of free tele-classes and radio shows held each Thursday just for you at www.ArtichokePress.com.

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