Are You Setting Yourself up for Rejection?

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I know right now some of the thoughts going through your mind while reading this are something along the lines of a super big NO! Maybe your thinking why would I want to make it a point of getting rejected?

Probably your thinking, No of course I don't have the intention to get rejected that's just something that happened to me.

Well is your brain set up so that you get rejected?

Well we have all been rejected a time or two, whereas some people have had it happen to them more often then just once or twice AND in more area's then just the one. so it's not limited to just relationship(s) as you might think, it also applies to work and friendships.

First let me ask you this are you a shy or quiet person? Have you ever been OR felt rejected by family members or friends? Has either of your parents ever suffered rejection from anyone in their life? past or present.

It holds a place of importance in your life and believe it or not it is one of the reasons why you get rejected too, though I will come back to the reason "why" in a bit.

Maybe you have heard people say that sadness or "happiness is a state of mind" the same thing also apples to both negativity and positivity being a state of mind as well,

Many also say that "Your thoughts create your world" now that might sound hard to believe or even a bit silly, here's a good example of that...

Say someone came along and told you that your best friend (whom you've known for years) was a great big liar and even though you know it's not true (cause your best friend is about the most honest person you know) though you start to wonder why that person said that and if might be true, so you begin to question what your friend does and start thinking that maybe that person was right and instead of telling your friend , you just start to disbelieve him/her about some things and it all leads to your losing your friendship over someone else's says so. Whereas yes that person did tell you that your friend is a liar, you were the one that believed them about it and didn't talk to your friend about it and you were the one who chose to think it and believe it.

That's how powerful our thoughts are because even if you didn't believe it at first you did start to think it was true and your thinking it was true turned it into reality all because you CHOSE to think it.

NOW that is why people say that we create our world by what we think it, because if you didn't think that would it have happened at all? Maybe, maybe not.

I'll tell you something that happened to me years ago I'd met this good guy and things were going good getting to know one another and having fun, but somehow somewhere along the line old thinking started kicking in again and out of the blue I started thinking that he was going to reject me, while the other half of me kept saying "shut up don't be silly" or "if you keep thinking that way then he will" but I kept thinking it anyway and after a period of time he did finally walk away leaving me feeling rejected, so my thinking was correct, But that happened because I rejected myself first and started thinking he'd do the same, and it all started with my thinking the old imprinted limitation.

So rejection is based a lot on your thoughts along with confidence and self-esteem playing a part in there too, but also it is more the case if either of your parents have themselves at one time experienced some form of rejection from either a friend or a family member which causes a chain effect on you and becomes imprinted in you while growing up and being exposed to it like I was and especially so if those people haven't done anything about it themselves and as a result are still suffering from rejection to this day.

If your a shy or a quiet person you could be that way because you're afraid that someone will reject you or maybe cause someone in your life already has done so more then once before, a friend or a family member that rejected you, it only makes you feel deep down that your not good enough or that your somehow "Bad" and thus have set the stage to keep on getting rejected by people because that's what the most important people in your life have made you to feel by their actions so that subconsciously that's what you've come to expect from others.

So in order to change this your going to need to figure out if you're really doing the rejecting yourself and not others now.

Remember my story? I found that the problem was actually me rejecting myself.

So here's you a couple of things you don't want to do.

1) First off stopping looking at yourself the way negative people see you. Instead see yourself the way a dog would see you as someone who's a wonderfully loving person.

2) If you make a mistake while doing something your use to doing don't call yourself names or put yourself down because we all make mistakes now and then so be kind to yourself.

3) If you talk to yourself pay attention to what you say, because there's a lot of truth in the things we say to ourselves it's usually what we think of ourselves and remember how powerful thoughts are because we create our world with them.

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