How to be Successful

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The world/universe cannot, and will not, always give you what you want. There are three ways to react when things are "not right":

1) You can get depressed, sad, bored, angry, and/or fight the world. This only hurts you and the world, because what is, is what is.

2) You can simply accept whatever life tosses your way, that is a much better way to go. You make the best of what is, as much as you can.

3) You can do more if you do not fully depend on what is. You are not 100% dependent on the world. Whatever you have when you close your eyes is always yours. You may learn to think slow means go (and freedom). Dead ends mean you try to find something productive to do. When someone or something says no, that no contains seeds of creating many other yes situations that depend on your short and long-term thinking and actions, which you can (mostly?) control.

The phone does not ring. What does that mean? Almost always, it means the phone is simply not ringing. That is all it means, unless your mind attaches extra meanings to a phone not ringing. (The same is true with  email, dollars, postal mail, and faxes.)

You could feel bad or bored or worse -  thinking that slow is wrong or bad.  What slow, or not getting what you want really means, is it is time to think or do something else.

In the example of the phone, be ready to answer the phone, but do not dwell on the phone situation, or let it slow you down. You can clean, listen to music, spend time with family or pets, do filing, back up your computer, work on a web site, write an article, shop, cook, read, watch TV, pray, meditate, or do a thousand other productive or enjoyable things.

There is a great song, written by Roger Miller named (I think Jim Nabors did the best version) "You can't roller skate in a buffalo herd". A portion of the song lyrics are  "Ya can't drive around with a tiger in your car - but you can be happy if you've a mind to - All ya gotta do is put your mind to it." I think this song is a model for a good state of mind: I cannot get the world to do what I want (right now) but I can do all kinds of other things, that can or should be done, or are just fun.

One analogy I think of is that I control voltage, and the world controls amperage.  Voltage is electromotive force - the potential to get things done, to make things move or happen.  Amperage is the power - the things we cannot directly control. When the voltage and amperage combine by chance or plan, good things can happen.

Here are some examples of how I think of the world in terms of voltage and amperage:

When I smile, that is voltage, what my smile does depends on who is around and how they react. I cannot control that, that is the amperage.  I can make a nice web site, but I cannot make people go there. I can pet my cat, but he might later barf on the carpet.

The actions I take and the way I behave, maximize my chances (voltage) for success - but the amperage is external, the part I cannot control. I am the voltage, the world is the amperage. 

Examples of amperage are my looks, the weather, the economy, the government, media, religion, my age, other people - things I cannot control are amperage.  A thousand volts does very little at zero amps.

When circumstances are dire, you may have to create and have a lot of voltage to cause any extra amperage. Even then, it's kind of a karma thing, lots of voltage seems to create opportunity that tends to attract and invite amperage to produce some good results.
To the extent you can control what you can control, you can make things better. Examples might be your web page, your looks, your work, your outlook, your attitude, and your actions. Most of what happens in life happens in your own head, if you are a hammer, the world will look like a nail.

If you directly or indirectly help people, that builds up good karma.  Worrying is ineffectual. If you can affect the outcome for the positive, then act. If you cannot, then accept you cant and hope for the best.

I sometimes pretend I am working on a antenna to hear or broadcast what I can control. If you take dead time, and make it productive time, you are working on your antenna.

How effective will your antenna be in picking up signals? That is not up to you directly, however when you improve your thinking, behavior, your work habits, your web site, or anything else you can improve, you are inviting the best outcomes.

When it's "dead" and nothing is happening, that is an opportunity for doing something productive. Writing this article on the day before Christmas, seemed a productive thing to do on a rare day when business is slow.


Mark D. Shapiro - Judgment Broker, - where Judgments go to get enforced.

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